“How often it is that we set ourselves in the high seat, judging others, not having read their book but merely having glimpsed the cover.”
First I better start with an apology! For those of you who read my blogs you'll probably have seen that there was no blog on Saturday. Long story short, lack of internet for the day. But now back to it. Plus Friday's blog was long enough to cover 2 days.
Now it's back to today. Monday. A new week. New stresses. But the good news if you are reading this is... Monday is done. The only way is up now!
After a long day in work it's great to be home and back writing my blog, although I didn't think I would be getting home tonight! Have you ever noticed when you hit traffic on the way home rom work you seem to hit traffic everywhere? I literally thought it was never going to end. Every road seemed to have a crash, traffic was crazy everywhere! It's nice to just be sat here typing my blog and watching TV.
At the moment there's a program on that I've never seen before. It's a program called "The Millionaire Matchmaker". I know, I know, not exactly the most exciting thing in the world to watch, but after the traumatic traffic I have just been in for the last 45 minutes, it's nice to just come home, turn off the brain, and watch some car crash reality TV! We all do it right? At least I do anyway! So let me explain the concept of "The Millionaire Matchmaker".
Basically there's a lady in America who has a job simply setting up really rich men with different women. Imagine the X factor for women where the winner gets a date with a Millionaire and that's pretty much the concept. The catch; the women don't know which of the guys they are talking to is the millionaire....genius! Its fascinating to see how people react to each other and treat each other, and then to watch the change that takes place when they find out there's a millionaire in their midst. Brilliant.
The women start talking about all sorts, looking at the different men, trying to work out which one is the millionaire. Is it the one in the Armani suit? The one with the designer glasses? Or could it just be the scruffy tramp in the corner? Whoever it is, whatever they look like, no-one knows for sure who they are talking to or who is the millionaire. Very often its the person they least expected, the tramp!
For a show that sounds like it should be a disaster, the results make for very entertaining watching. I think its one of the very few times where, after the news of a millionaire being present is revealed, people are not judged by the way they look anymore. After all anyone of the men could be the millionaire.
That got me thinking.
Very often in life we come in to contact with people, bump into people, pass people who we know nothing about and yet, so quickly, we make a judgement about them. We make a judgement about their life, their background, their job, the sort of person they are. It's all to easy for us to simply write someone off just because of our first impressions of them.
How often have you had a first impression of someone, or made a judgement about someone only to find that after a short amount of time, you had that person all wrong. Very often what you think about a person is usually the complete opposite of what that person is really like. We are all guilty of jumping to conclusions, myself included.
Although "The Millionaire Matchmaker" is probably the worst program I've ever seen (it has now been replaced with X factor on Catch up!) the concept says a lot about us and the human nature. Very often we can be so judgemental and shallow about the people we meet, before we've even had chance to get to know them. Yet when we hear there's something we like about someone, we can change instantly.
And so I end with this thought.
People play a big part of our lives. Regardless of their backgrounds, lifestyle or looks, very often we come across people from all walks of life and usually have some sort of interaction with them. Whether it's relationships with work colleagues, dealing with staff in a shop, acknowledging someone serving you at a restaurant, wherever; our life is filled with people. And yet so often we can isolate ourselves from people because of our judgements.
It's a bit like "The Millionaire Matchmaker." We spend ages trying to write off those people we don't like the look of and go for the ones who we think look like us! But why? How much more exciting would life be if we filled our life with people different from us? Life would be boring if all I did was fill my life with people like me. I would probably drive myself mad!
I am proud to say that the majority of my friends are people who, on the outset, I would never have imagined building relationships with and yet, they are the people I get on with the best.
So the next time someone new comes into your life, don't simply write them off because they aren't in the Armani suit, or the designer glasses. Don't write them off because they don't look like you, but get to know them. Chances are you'll probably get on with scruffy tramp in the corner best anyway!
Bywyd sydd yn byw! - Just living life!
RM
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