"I want people to understand that from the minute Lady Gaga arrived, she created a new set of rules: being different is good; embrace it."
- Simon Cowell
Order, Order! There's just something about us that like things to be in order.
Have you ever thought about the sorts of things you do in life that you always do in the same order? Maybe you always brush your teeth before you wash? Maybe you put your belt on then start the car? There are endless examples. I guess there are lots of things we do on a daily basis that we do because we like things in order, like a sort of habit.
But why all this talk of order? I'll explain.
Being a teacher, the range of conversations that can be heard taking place between pupils and staff is amazing! Today was no different.
As I was on lunch break today I over heard a conversation taking place in the canteen. One child had sat down ready for his lunch and had begun to eat the crisps from his packed lunch before eating his sandwiches! Shock horror! So what's the problem? There's nothing wrong with that I hear you say. Well to someone, there was a problem. The child, who was happily enjoying his crisps, was stopped in his tracks when, from across the canteen, there came an almighty shout, "Stop! You haven't had your sandwiches first!" The look on this child's face was one of utter disapproval. He was NOT impressed! How could someone eat their crisps before their sandwiches (It's the same sort of effect that can be had by those people who eat the burger before the fries)!
Hearing and seeing this made me smile to myself and inspired this blog.
This child clearly had an order that they liked to have their packed lunch in and, quite obviously, wanted everyone else to follow in their ways too. He was used to something that he thought to be the right order of eating; sandwich then crisps. Easy. The fact that someone was not doing what was thought to be the 'right' way of eating was not going to go unnoticed. I'm sure it's not the only time that someone has been stopped for doing something which goes against what others consider to be the 'right' way.
I wonder how many times in our lives we have been guilty of doing just that? Being someone who is all to quick to judge people according to our ways, or the things we think are right. I wonder how many times we let our opinions affect the way we judge and interact with others. How often does society judge people and try to make them conform to the "right way"? Fashion? Styles? Appearance?
All too often it can become easy to judge people and categorise people according to what we consider to be right. All too soon we try to make people fit into our expectations and opinions rather than let them make their own choices.
The world is full of different people from different walks of life. People who have a different order of doing things to you. However, so often we judge people by the things that we think are right that when someone does something different, we write them off. Why? Is it really that important that everyone meets your requirements before you get to know them? Is there a security check to pass before letting anyone close to you? Is there an order that people must conform to before you see them as acceptable?
Simon Cowell is one of my ultimate idols! I love his story and what he has achieved in life. Here's a quick video of Simon's life if you've never heard the story!
It's fair to say that Simon Cowell is one of the richest and most well known people in the world today. But how did he get there? Did he do it by conforming to the opinions of others? Saying the things people want to hear? Changing to fit the "right order"? No! Simon Cowell was always true to himself, he had his own way of doing things and because he stuck by it he became the success he is today.
So I end with this thought.
In life there will always be people who make choices and have opinions that differ to our own. We will probably come into contact with more people who do things differently to us, that we will with those who do things the same way. Everyone has their own order.
So when you question someones choices that seem different to your own, just think to yourself, are they doing it to be awkward? Are they doing it to cause offence? Are they doing it to be difficult? Or could it just be, that maybe, the order they have chosen is just them are being true to themselves? If that's the case then who are we to change it!
In life it can be so easy to conform to peoples opinions and expectations but why should you change? You are who you are and if people can't accept you for that then they are probably not even worth your time! The only way you can find true happiness in life is to do things in your own way, in your own order. It is only when you do that, that you can stay true to who you are.
And you never know, your way could just become THE way.
Bywyd sydd yn byw! - Just living life!
RM
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